Bedtime Routine for Newborn and Toddler

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You think you are a sleep expert now that your baby is a toddler, and then... your newborn comes along. How do you manage two or more children during bedtime? Do you let them sleep at the same time or at different times?

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Every new mother knows that one of the first things a new mother needs to adjust to is sleep deprivation. It would seem as though your baby never sleeps or only sleeps during the day and is bright as an owl during the night. You've read all the parenting books, done all that you could to adjust your baby's timing so that your baby will sleep through the night (if such a thing is possible!). You even tried to sleep when baby sleeps.

Finally, your baby is a toddler and you thought you had baby's and your sleep patterns sorted out and then your newborn enters the picture. What do you do now? How do you manage a newborn and a toddler at the same time during bedtime? Do you let them have the same bedtime or a different bedtime?

Should the newborn sleep first and the toddler sleep later?

With everything that is related to Parenting, the best rule is "What works best for your family is the best rule". You can read every parenting book in the world and listen to all the advice from wise female relatives and friends but at the end of the day, you have got to find what works best for you. What are your family circumstances? Do both you and your partner work? What time do you get home from work?

After you have sorted all that out, the next thing you have to ask yourself is whether you should let the kids have a joint bedtime or a different one. A newborn and a toddler has different needs and are at different developmental stages. However, even though they are at different developmental stages and whether you choose to have the same bedtime or different bedtime for them, one thing remains the same.

Bedtime Routines for both the newborn and toddler should be the same even if they have different sleeping times

Whether you choose to have an earlier bedtime for the newborn and a later one for the toddler, one thing is the same. The bedtime routine for both the newborn and the toddler should be the same.

A warm bathGetting ready for bed - (brush teeth, change into pyjamas etc - the older child can do this with some help and you can do it for baby)A bedtime story (it is never too early to read to a child)A calming down process - allow some time for you and your child to calm down from the dayLights off

I chose the same bedtime for my children. I found that it worked perfectly for me because I would breastfeed the baby while chatting with the toddler. We would read nursery rhymes and sing together or I would read a story to her. This way, by the time baby has finished breastfeeding, the toddler is sleepy enough to go to sleep at the same time. I also found that having the same bedtime allows me to have more time with my spouse after the children are asleep. I don't have to repeat the process with the toddler after baby sleeps and the toddler will also have more bonding time with the baby.

Of course, it may not always work so perfectly as the baby could awaken as soon as you put her down but I find that being consistent with their bedtime routine helps. In fact, I still have the same bedtime routine for the kids who are much older now.

If you are reading this, you could be planning to welcome your new baby or over tired from lack of sleep from a baby who never sleep and an overactive toddler during bedtime.

Find something that works for your family and your circumstancesStick to the same bedtime routine even if you choose a different bedtime for your kidsRemain consistentDon't be too hard on yourself or feel too frustrated if the routines don't quite work out as plannedGive yourself a break from time to time

Congratulations on the new addition to your family and Good Luck in establishing a smooth sleep routine.

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How to Achieve a Good Bedtime Routine

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I love my children very much, however I do look forward to a few hours in the evening where my husband and I can have a chat or read a book or watch a TV programme without interruptions. I therefore value the time after I have put my children to bed. A good night's sleep is also good for children. Every parent will have experienced the tired, irritated child and know that the bad behaviour they are displaying is solely due to the fact that they are tired.

Advice on Bedtime Routines.

1. Wind Down Time: The whole bedtime routine experience should be about unwinding. Children need an hour to help them relax and get ready for sleep.

2. Routine: As long as you observe the key principles of winding down and chilling out then it doesn't matter how you do it so long as it is a routine that your child recognises as a signal for going to bed.

Please remember that bedtime routines do not just happen and there is no magic answer. It will take time and practise to establish a bedtime routine, however once it has been achieved, the process of your child going to bed will become a whole lot easier.

The following ideas are from the bedtime routine we have in our house.

Watch a Children's Programme: Generally and as a professional I would say no TV during the wind down hour, however part of our routine is watching 'In The Night Garden' on CBeebies, which my 2-year-old loves. Whilst this is on I run a bath and tidy up the living room of children's toys.

Have a Bath: I use this time to talk to my children about their day and we also sing some songs. I have bought and tried the bedtime bubble bath and soap and do not find it makes any difference with my children, however the lavender scent may work for you children.

Drink: If your child suffers from enuresis (nighttime wetting) you may not want to do this. I usually make my children a hot milky drink, which helps me to ensure they are getting enough milk in their diet.

Toilet and Teeth: Need I say anymore!

Bedtime Story: This is my children's favourite part of the routine. They each choose a story and we read it, sometimes there is a fight as to whose story we read first or whose bedroom we do it in so I make a mental note of whose turn it is.

Cuddle, Kiss and 'I Love You': Goes without saying!

Music: This is frowned upon and as a professional I wouldn't advise it, however both my children like to have something on in the background as they go to sleep. My oldest doesn't like being upstairs himself and we allowed a story CD to play in his room as he was going to sleep and this helped him to not feel scared. Our 2-year-old likes to listen to Classic FM. My rules to the children are that it is either a short story or classical music. I will also mention that both of them will go to sleep without the CD player when they wake up during the night and also when we are away.

I find that the children take ownership of the routine once it is established and they feel part of it. They can do this by getting their night clothes and choosing their bedtime story. I have used Sticker Rewards Charts in the past to help settle the children into the bedtime routine. I also use this method when we go on holidays or have come back form holidays to ensure that the routine is maintained.

It is important that children at school go to bed at a reasonable time to ensure that they get enough sleep for school. I tend to let my children stay up an hour or so later at the weekend, with them going to bed between 8 and 9 pm. However we try wherever possible to keep to the routine.

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